Originally posted by Desert-FoxYep. I have a girlfriend and we've been going out for a whopping 2 years now.
My parents were together for 1 year before they had me, so wow, I guess.
I think these kinds of things are different for adults, where there are generally few reservations about going further, since they are old enough, and it is likely that they have done such things in the past with former dates.
Originally posted by Jimmy52905Originally posted by SupertailsThe problem is, I'm shy and afraid to pursue anyone without first knowing if they like me back. It's a shame we have to be the ones to ask them out.
YES! Someone else who actually understands!
The problem here, this particular one, is what I feel to be those ever-present cases of gender roles that I am always so fixated on. That guys are the ones to ask out the girls, take initiative, and are expected by both girls and other guys to act a particular way or else never get a girlfriend (or in more accurate terms, "never get laid"). I heard people say I'll never get laid, due to having an interest in computing, video games, etc.
I do feel absolutely lucky though, for different reasons though, for having the relationship I do have. The situation is so astounding to me, that I've even ventured into saying it's fate, which I am not one to do. Yes, I do realize that when people get into the whole "I really love you" and "We were meant to be together", it often serves to lead to disappointment when it "inevitably" ends up in ruins. I do not believe that will happen, but I suppose whatever happens does.
Six days ago was my 7 month anniversary with my girlfriend. Although she's mostly away for the summer at an internet-less beach with no home phone and a limited-use cell phone, we've still managed to remain happy together while being apart. Just yesterday we went to Connecticon for what I could easily consider one of the best days of my life. What it means to me though, that after this long we're still together, that I was always right in my views of what relationships should be and therefore was able to maintain one since I actually cared about *her*, and never rushed anything beyond what we were comfortable of, is that I could be happy aiming for my goals. I found somebody who could accept me, even love me, for who I am. It took finding the one exception among everyone else at an entirely different school (which was entirely due to Robotics, effectively filtering out most people who didn't already have similar interests to me), but I did it. I feel vindicated in that a lot of what I felt about gender roles was true, that relationships didn't have to be a certain way what with the many examples of role reversal we have between us.. in fact she was the one who asked 'me' out, something we reflected on just yesterday when recollecting the past.