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First of all, the problem isn't that the user was given a warning, the problem is that me calling out his gross comments shouldn't have been deemed dramatic or extra. Like I said, could have left a few choice words out, but me calling out the user for SEXUALIZING ME isn't unreasonably.
But you did call him out. Twice. There was never an issue with this. The problem arised when you specifically came back half an hour later to further shit on the user that you had already called out, to which I told you not to because it was absolutely unnecessary.
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But more importantly I'm shocked that the staff claim to be trying to create a safe environment for LGBT users while simultaneously not listening to them (me in this case) when they explain why something is transphobic. Someone even stood up for me and called the behavior bigoted and one of the staff responded with "bigoted" in quotes. That's pretty callous if you ask me, and doesn't reflect a team that cares about whether or not their users feel safe if it clashes with THEIR views and opinions.
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Its not your place to tell me or any other LGBT people how we should react to being sexualized, dehumanized, or treated poorly in any other way. If you actually cared about LGBT people, you would listen to what we have to say instead of talking over us and stating your own uninformed opinions.
But I did want to listen to you, which is why after I claimed it wasn't transphobic and you did, I specifically asked you, legitimately, to tell me why so I could learn, and when your first response left me on the same page, I wanted you to elaborate further, at which point you said something else and you then immediatly left the server.
By the way, this is the "bigoted in quotes" part, in case anyone's wondering. The user that Samantha is victim of made an incredibly insensitive comment, but calling it bigotry is super far fetched. Y'all can see it for yourselves in the Discord server, I'm not showing an image as it may potentially contain info that Samantha most certainly wouldn't want someone to just be public in the forums.
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If the staff genuinely want to "fix" this, allow people to defend themselves. When someone is being blatantly gross or creepy, don't feel required to be polite, call it out. You don't have to be insulting but stop being so passive.
Even if the staff did do this, which I don't think they will, it wouldn't affect my decision to leave. My departure from SMWC has honestly been a long time coming and this was just the final straw for me.
Even if the staff did do this, which I don't think they will, it wouldn't affect my decision to leave. My departure from SMWC has honestly been a long time coming and this was just the final straw for me.
Ain't that exactly what staff did? Being firm when calling out a user for something bad they did and not exploding on them are not mutually exclusive concepts.
In case it wasn't clear enough by now, the issue was not that you called the user out as you in fact had already done it twice already, and being disgusted/offended by his comments is completely justified and expected. The issue was that after departing from the server you specifically came back to further shit on the user that had already been called out, by you, me, another staff member and a fourth user.
By the way, nobody, not even the user who defended you from the very start during all of this, initially thought the person who offended you did something that upset you to this degree, given how you laughed it off and followed his messages up with more, apparent, friendly conversation. I KNOW YOU LATER SAID, that it was essentially a reactionary defense mechanism to react like that because of how uncomfortable it made you feel, but nobody on this site is a mind reader and nobody could have possibly noticed the comment upset you to this degree, because you literally showed no sign of it.
Again, one more time, nobody in staff told you off for calling the user out, the reason you were told off is because you were being extremely hostile while doing it and what I told you was not to stoop to insults, not to be okay with what he said, because the issue was already handled and because flaming is not allowed. Nothing more, nothing less. But you chose to take "it is unnecessary to continue insulting the user who has already been warned" as if I had told you "you can't be upset about what he said to you because otherwise you're the bad guy now".