Reality is absolute, but everyone's description of it is relative. Every time I hear someone say something, I'm either hearing their own interpretation or experience, or I'm hearing someone else's words (if they just happen to be echoing something they've heard from someone else). And that interpretation/experience can be surrounded by any number of flaws, deliberate or unintentional. I'm not excluded from that either, I can try my best to work with this absolute/relative problem, but at the end of the day, I'm subjected to it just like everyone else.
When presented with contradictory things, and in the case that I don't have enough information to invalidate either, it can be better to have both sitting there (even if they cause a conflict) as I try to solve them, because at the end of the day, it's okay for me to recognize that I lack information. It's okay to recognize that what may be best for me may not be the best for someone else and vice-versa. It's okay to recognize that sometimes I don't know what's best for myself or what's best for someone else, and that other people may not know that either, because as long as I keep trying to reach a conclusion (and as long as I keep listening), I'll get there eventually. Just keep trying.
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Originally posted by Exodustx0* Take your guard down when you're in a safe situation.
* Trust people unless proven untrustworthy, always allow untrustworthy people to gain your trust if significant effort is shown.
* Having your guard up does not mean you don't trust someone.
* Show your trust.
This is something I've been working on for years...I think I'm finally getting there.
Originally posted by Exodustx0* Everything you do was worth it at some point. Never feel bad about that.
* Write down what you believe in for everyone to see. Read, refresh and revise occasionally.
I still struggle with these. I made a Dreamwidth account to share my thoughts more publicly and ended up not using it at all.